Tuesday, April 6, 2010


Many are times when individual considers themselves as others or being regarded, people feel so much that, one person resembles other in way way or another. The major difference comes vivid when it comes to specific behavior of the individual. In this case, one can group people in several groups which in this discussion are regarded as types. There are nine personalities that rules our life.

Anger avoidance

people under this group struggle and do anything possible to flee themselves from anger, in nature, they are critical and value themselves only when they have done something perfectly and are satisfied with the results. They are time keepers, they are not ready to loose some crucial time lazily.

Attention Seekers

This group contains individuals who are always ready to meet the needs of others at the expense of their own. They do this for the sake of their pleasure expecting nothing in return, they always feel that, they have the role to fulfill others needs.

Wisdom seekers

This type comprises individuals who never accept emptiness in their mind, they are ready to earn seeking more knowledge and understanding of the things and the world.

Failure Avoidance
Here you meet individual who are eager to do anything just to make sure that, they run away from failures, they always want to achieve higher and stay higher in success. When they have a goal to achieve ahead of them, they put all their efforts and identity to achieve it.

Deviance avoidance

They pursue life as governed by the law and norms and are always loyal and dedicated people. Avoidance of wrong is a prerequisite to all things and any opposition to them is seen as dangerous and malicious. They always feel insecure, afraid and worry over trivial matters.

The special ones

These people struggles a lot to avoid being ordinary. They see themselves as the best and persons of refreshment and sensitivity but envy others who seem more natural than they are. They are charming personalities, have good tastes and are well manned.

Pain Avoiders

these are optimistic and fun loving people, they avoid pain and often avoid noticing pain or distress in others around them. They tend to avoid pain, mental, physical or psychological thus are idealists.

The strong ones

these are the people who would do anything possible to show their strength and avoid any weakness. They glorify their strength, to them life is a struggle and they are courageous. At times they seek attention by doing only what can be noticed. They are always ready to face head on any opposition and are very intimidating, often saying 'No” to people.

Harmony retainers

the last type of personalities include those people who will always try to avoid conflict by maintaining harmony. Tension or lack of harmony between people makes them uncomfortable. They are peace covers and so always try to maintain their own inner peace. They love tranquil environment, when conflict occurs they cope with them by denying the importance of the sources and cause of the humor and tend to see life as a routine which should never be changed.

Having gone to this far, the major questions remain; In which category are? What about friends living in the countries where there are fighting each and every hour? Thank you to a piece of news letter I picked from the bin.



Relationships are created as one comes in being in the World, it is a connection between people or anything. In the BIBLE we see GOD has continued to respect nature including the creation of Adam. We begin to count friends and call it relationship which always culminate into marriage.

MARRIAGE is a secret and covenant odeyed by GOD himself. God says 1+ 1 = 1 and not two and he says, a man + a woman are joined into one flesh and not two. The only standing relationship is the one that is known to God. Character is the basis of what we are today, Men are always Ego.

Obedience contains these two;
Ask yourself whether what you wish to do conforms with GOD.
Before speaking anything, ask yourself if it will be a blessing to the Brethren
Relationships are very complicated and always confusing ( Deuteronomy 29:29)

Five Foundation for God's relationships

1.John 15:9-17
- We need to exercise true Love. Love is a deep affection or inner feeling about another person, true love turns into a magnet and attract people. As believers, we have no option about Love, it is not optional but a command.

2.Trust in God in everything
-There are moments especially difficult times where people or non-believers are forced to doubt about the God's presence. 1 Thessalonian 5 : 13, Daniel 3 : 17 -18
-It is not everything that you see and desire will come into you but even in such tense situation GOD will not leave you.
-Partnership helps us to go closer and closer to GOD.

3.One relating to Christ
Luke 2: 46-47
- we are reminded to run away from temptations,
- how often do we pray, God does not do anything for us apart from answering our prayers. Remember God asked Adam; ADAM! What have you done? The question was directed to Adam and not Eve because Men carry responsibilities, they are protectors of their families and prophets.

4.What makes the relationship solid?
Jeremiah 29:11
-...for I know the thoughts I think towards you, to give you honor, to give you glory, says the LORD.

5.In Due Seasons
Genesis 1:31
everything that were created by God in those six days were good. Ecclesiastics 3:11...he has made everything beautiful in his time, he sets time for that beauty in his time.
- Beauty can hate you, God has made everything beauty, beware of beauty.
-but it is more dangerous than dynamite or nuclear,it has killed so much than any other weapon on the earth discovered so far.
The Bible says that, He who finds a WIFE looks for a good thing, it is beautiful to have a woman ( A Wife)

it has got so many repucations,

health implication
-You do not know where she comes from, how many she has been with, you do not even know what she carries! In fact you know nothing.

Serous Social Implications
-It can ruin you, it can destroy your history
-Unwanted or unplanned children
- It gives you guilty
-It stops you from what you would have achieved.
-Guilty makes it difficult for you to pray
-Malack 2:13 … and this you have done again, covering the alter of the God with tears...
NOTE: The wife of your youth is the that Wife that the God has given you in your time.

Before you marry,God demands an account of your past because he is going to give you a wife who will be a channel to success through God himself. Remember James 1: 14-18...but everyman is tempted when he is....
-every good and perfect gift comes from the LORD above.

How to Avoid?

James 1:2 ...count it all joy...
Remember this, the grass in the side of the fence looks much greener than the ones you have... beware!

Also, Patience is the only thing that is going to help you. Galatians 5:22

Elli wa Mshana